Don’t Feed The Trolls

I’ve been getting pestered by trolls a bit lately.

For those of you who don’t know what trolling is, it’s when one person or a group of people on the internet (usually anonymous) leave negative or offensive comments on someone’s blog or website. More than once.

After I got stalked by a guy from California a few years back (who told me he loved me 175 times a day; and no, I’m not exaggerating) I put some blocks on my blog so that certain comments can’t get through. Thank God I did because some of the comments left the other day would make a sensitive lady blush and wonder if the world really had gone to hell in a hand basket. Fortunately I am not so sensitive. This was my reaction to one of the comments –

You want to do what to my mother with what ?*$##@@!&*^!!!

F**K you, you f**#in piece of motherf**#ing sh*t. I will find out you who are and kick your pathetic f**ked up ass.

Yes. I pride myself on my ladylike behaviour and language at all times.

The weird thing is that the post that received all the horrible comments (all 45 of them) was a story I wrote about anxiety for a writing prompt site. The main troll told me I write too much about anxiety and depression and that it seemed I would never get over it so maybe I should just top myself and be done with it. Ouch.

Three semi-critical comments got through which seemed to be legitimate writers who came from the site and I will accept those. I think when you publish fiction on your blog there is a chance you are going to get some criticism from time to time. The way I look at is you just have to suck it up and get on with it. You really can’t please all of the people all of the time.

I also wanted to say that you can get a group of writers (if you want to call them that) associated with some of these sites who band together and start picking on other writers. It has happened to me before and to several people I know. I don’t know why they do it, but they do it and it really is one of those things where all you can say is : People, get a freaking life….

I am fairly certain the main troll came from the writing prompt site. I’m not going to do anything about that at the moment but if you bother me again, matey, you are going down.

There are so many other more important things in life than nonsense like this.

Today I cried and cried about a group of horses who were stabled near the Fukushima reactor when the tsunami hit. They survived the tsunami (miraculously) but it now looks like they will die from radiation sickness. That story is so sad I can’t stand it.

That’s the stuff I care about. That’s the stuff that bothers me.

I don’t care about small-minded people who are so miserable that all they want to do is try and inflict their misery on other people.

Trolls? Really and truly, who cares?

Don’t feed them and they’ll go away.

And if they do succeed in bothering you, in irritating you, in making you want to smash something for a moment then watch this video about a boy rescuing and rearing a baby hummingbird. It is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.

Things like this restore my faith in humanity.

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26 thoughts on “Don’t Feed The Trolls

  1. Very sad about the horses. In human holocausts, the animals are always left behind. It is a luxury of living in a peaceful world to have a close relationship with animals. The hummingbird video was great.

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  2. I remember being shocked by reading in your post that people could be like that, but I have since read another post where the comments were downright nasty and attacking. I couldn’t believe my eyes. If they don’t have something positive to say, then they mustn’t say it. It was also to do with entering one or more of the sites you mention. I know of a couple of people who have had this kind of trouble, but stopped it.

    I do feel sorry for innocent animals who will suffer from the radiation. I’ll watch your video and comment later.

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  3. “I don’t care about small-minded people who are so miserable that all they want to do is try and inflict their misery on other people.

    Trolls? Really and truly, who cares?

    Don’t feed them and they’ll go away.”

    EXACTLY SELMA! EXACTLY. I have gotten my fair share of shitty comments from the trolls – and I just delete and ignore. Delete and Ignore. I’ve also had to blacklist IP some addresses. But, I always wonder what their faces look like when they find out I’ve banned/blocked them.

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  4. Sorry about the trolls Selma – there seems to be something about goodness that attracts the nuts.

    Now, let’s forget about the losers and get onto the better stuff – what a wonderful vid and quite an inspiration – thank you 🙂

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  5. Hi Selma,
    It seems a lot of people get the trolls, I also have had my fair share, but I also just delete and forget them, and after awhile they do go away, and then you get a new one, I agree these people really do need to get a life.

    It is a sad story about the horses, I didn’t click onto the link, I have trouble reading or watching anything about animals that have been hurt or abused. Lovely video of the humming bird.

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  6. I quit visiting travelwriters.com after the bulletin board got wrecked by the actions of three or four spiteful and mean-minded trolls … one of whom launched a vicious personal attack on a very good friend who I know has some pretty serious issues to deal with, and didn’t need that.

    Worst I’ve had so far is someone who said I ought to put up more writing and less video and pictures … if it wasn’t for the ungrammatical prose and rather unprintable adjectives, I’d have taken it as constructive criticism (and still ignored it!)

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  7. I don’t get trolls either. It’s a sad existence, really – sitting around finding blogs and news stories on which to perpetuate ugliness and bad feeling. I’m guessing the majority of them need to go outside and gets some fresh air.

    We’re having an election here in Canada, and recently a Craigs List ad came to light, for a political organization searching for trolls to scan news stories and blogs and write critical comments that reiterate the conservative talking points. I always suspected that these kinds of trolls thought they were doing some sort of “service” to the parties they support – now it seems they were doing a paid service! That is taking troll-ism to a new low.

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  8. You go girl 😉 and those trolls so need to get a life – I wonder if they realise how pathetic they are. It is so sad about the animals left behind after the disasters – it struck me for the first time during our floods and how people were often not allowed to take pets to the shelters and how stressful and horrible that must be – but saving humans must always come first in these situations (though I have well and truly worked out a plan of action for my pets in the event of a disaster – best to be prepared in advance because once it happens you can’t think straight). That video made me cry it is so beautiful.

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  9. Hi SQUIRREL:
    I’ve never looked at it like that before but it is a luxury of a peaceful world to have a close relationship with animals. I cry my eyes out these days whenever I read a story of animals suffering. It hurts me more than anything. I don’t know why. Perhaps it’s because I regard them as innocents. The hummingbird vid did cheer me up, though!

    Hi ADEEYOYO:
    I don’t know why people do things like that. I have always approached writing sites as a way to develop one’s writing skills and build a sense of community but I have been attacked too many times to contionue with them now, I’m afraid. Those people really need to get a grip.

    Isn’t that little bird adorable? I couldn’t believe how tiny it was. Like something from fairyland!!

    Hi MELEAH:
    I’ve blacklisted a few IP addresses as well. I would love to see their faces too. What do they think? That we’re just going to sit back and take it? They really need to take a long hard look at themselves, as my grandmother used to say.

    Hi PUDDOCK:
    That wee bird has made me so happy. I cannot begin to tell you how much I love that dear wee guy. Makes me not care about all the nasty stuff out there. Let those people fester in their misery. It’s just ridiculous.

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  10. Hi MAGS:
    You are doing the right thing. Delete and ignore. I am sorry they are bothering you, that makes me mad. Just keep deleting them….

    I know what you mean about the sad animal stories. I find them incredibly difficult to read. It is so upsetting. I always just want to run out and save them even if they are thousands of miles away.

    But the hummingbird gives me sustenance….

    Hi TRAVELRAT:
    Oh Good Lord, what is that person going on about? Your site is fabulous. Some people really are idiots.

    I am sorry to hear of your friend being attacked. It can be quite stressful for some people. I come out with all guns a-blazing but many people aren’t like that and I know one or two people who have given up blogging altogether because of it. Why can’t people just mind their own business? I will never know the answer to that one.

    Hi JENNIFER:
    That really is a pathetic way to earn a living. Can you imagine the mindset you’d have to be in to actually do it? I think of a Uriah Heep type of character shuffling about on the floor with blackened teeth and shrivelled skin. Uuughhh. I suspect most trolls die alone. Hahaha.

    I am really glad you haven’t been bothered by them. Thank goodness for that!

    Hi GABRIELLE:
    You’ll laugh at this but my son and I have a plan in place to take our fish tanks with us if we ever have to evacuate. We have a trolley and ropes at the ready. We just couldn’t leave them behind. One of the saddest things for me to read about during the floods was the people who had to leave their pets behind. They were so traumatised by it. It makes the whole thing worse somehow. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to not only leave your animals behind but then realise they are radioactive as well. That is just too much.

    That hummingbird was so beautiful I cried too….

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  11. This same creep got into my YouTube channel, and left some obscene and extremely hurtful comments on a video featuring my friend. Fortunately, I was able to delete them before she saw them … and (with the help of my ‘computer guru’) was able to find out his real name and report him to YouTube. But, whether or not they did anything … or, indeed, were able to, I don’t know.

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  12. It’s your blog! I just delete them. It must give them the total shits to look and find a blank! Great video of the bird. The whole story of the tsunami is just numbingly sad, people, pets, horses.

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  13. Yes online trolls are a menace. I sadly always fight them, even when they’re not picking on me. I need to learn NOT to feed them as you say but I never liked a bully of any sort.

    And I thought the video was lovely especially seeing a teenage boy doing the raising. Lovely, thanks!

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  14. I think we give power to any negative person when we pay them attention, they feed on it. I’ve noted it so much in my own life lately. Stepping back, taking a pause and NOT reacting if at all possible to “jerks of all kinds” has been so helpful and has really turned a lot more than just the particular moment around, it has a carry over that lasts.

    I am sorry to read that you’ve been bothered by this crap but I guess that’s all these kind of people have to do. What a pity to waste the time we are given with being so nasty. I get some stupid spam comments as well but I don’t even read them, I just delete them and move on to better reading!

    I love the other kind of Trolls a lot! I remember them from high school, I had a bunch of trolls on my desk at home. Those were the kind to gab with LOL!!! Complete with technicolor hair!!!

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  15. Hi LIBBY:
    You are so right. Don’t know why they do it. It’s kind of a horrible way to be. In a way I feel sorry for them. I mean, imagine picking on people being the highlight of your day? I would hate that!

    Hi TRAVELRAT:
    Now that really stinks. Why would someone do that? I really don’t understand the motivation of some people. I am really sorry to hear about it.

    Hi STAFFORD:
    The delete button is my best friend at the moment. Love it. LOL.

    I feel so bad for the people of Japan at the moment. They are in trouble with that reactor. It really is an absolute nightmare. I don’t know how they are coping with it.

    Thank God for hummingbirds…..

    Hi LAURI:
    I’m the same as you. I hate bullies so much I always react when I probably shouldn’t. It’s best to ignore – I have to keep telling myself that.

    Wasn’t that boy in the video a gem? Such a good heart!

    Hi GERALDINE:
    It’s interesting about negativity, isn’t it? It’s almost as if it needs to be fed and won’t survive if it isn’t. I find it very strange. You’re right – stepping back is the way to go, it does nip things in the bud and stops our blood pressure from rising. Haha.

    I Love those rainbow trolls. I still have some. Did you ever have Gonks in Canada? They were cute too. So much fun!

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  16. SUCK IT, TROLLS! Seriously, who spends their time being rude and nasty on the Internet to people they don’t know (or do know, for that matter)? Losers, that’s who. I’d way rather talk about that hummingbird. Or dirty language. Got any Aussie swear words we don’t use here in the States? Dish!

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  17. I might add that I had such a big problem with trolls in a previous blog that I had to shut the blog down. I had apparently unwittingly hit a very big sore point with some very disturbed individuals. I stupidly tried to explain myself and the more I did, the worse it got. I had stirred a hornet’s nest. I have been very careful since to stay away from that particular subject in that particular way. It’s one thing to be attacked by a random troll, and quite another to be stung by a bevy of trolls who all know eachother and would then talk about me on their blogs. I agree with everyone who says Do Not Respond and simply keep deleting the comments. They can’t do anything about it and will eventually go away.

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  18. Hi KATE:
    Oh, totally!! Hahaha. There are plenty of true blue Aussie swear words I could tell you but I would blush coz some of them are so rude. Some of my fave (slightly cleaner) insulting Aussie terms, though include –
    ratshit ie. That dress looks ratshit on you
    A few kangaroos loose in the top paddock – which refers to a person of dubious intelligence
    A ning nong – a silly person
    A drongo – a foolish or useless person
    Some of the old Aussie slang is really hilarious!!!

    Hi SQUIRREL:
    I am really sorry that happened. That stinks. We really should be able to talk about what we want on our blogs. It alarms me when people hone in on things and won’t let go. That worries me because usually the issue in question is not an outlandish one and they blow it out of proportion. I hate when they all gang up on one person. That makes me so MAAAADDD. Not responding does work but it is a shame we have to go through it in the first place. I Love your blog and your writing. Don’t ever stop!

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  19. I’m so sorry you got trolled Selma. I’ll have to go and catch up now and read your story. I usually just get spam and injured men from India asking for my advice on various ergonomic issues. Occasionally I get a weird or critical comment and I figure it’s my website, I’ll decide what gets published.

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  20. Hi DAOINE:
    Laughing about those ergonomic issues. LOLZ. That is hilarious. 😆

    I’ve forgotten about the trolls now. It doesn’t really bother me that much. I actually just wonder why people do it. I mean, what do they gain? It seems like a bit of pointless pursuit to me…..

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  21. The mean spiritedness kills me, it really does. When I find myself reading something I don;t like I always sit back, give the person the benefit of the doubt and then if that kind of thing keeps happeneing, I simply delete them from my blog roll, or reader. I don’t feel that I have the right to critisize. They have a right to write the way they see fit and if I don’t like it for whatever reason, theres an X in the top right hand corner. And anyway, if you have nothing nice to say, you should say nothing at all. What possible purpose can it serve to be a troll to someone? you know what I think? I think the trolls are the people in love with the sound of their own voice or in this case in love with their written word. If I am offended, I delete, I don’t need to tell them why I don’t like it or them, that doesn’t matter, there is no need to be hurtful.

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  22. Hi CATHY:
    I’m OK with people having an opposing point of view presented in a reasonable manner – that’s completely fine – but when it starts to become a personal, vitriolic attack, that is not on, especially when they don’t even know me.

    I think trolls do like the attention and it is a real problem on the internet. Anonymity brings out the nasty side of some people. I don’t know why. They must be very unhappy people.

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  23. God some people need to get a life! I get a few once in a while and I just hit delete! I got a particularly nasty one on my youtube account on a video of Mica. I was like seriously… then I followed his trail and on his account he had these horrible, horrible videos that I was tempted to write something stupid too but I not going to stoop to his level!

    I love what you write about and how you touch your readers with your stories! Don’t ever let these stupid trolls stop you from doing what you love!

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  24. Hi TBALL:
    Now why would someone leave a nasty comment about Mica? What kind of person would do that? That makes me so MAAADDDDD!!! People like that really do make me want to carry out acts of senseless violence. GRRRRR.

    The trolls won’t stop me, hon. Never ever. They spur me on, in fact. I also feel sorry that their lives are so sad. It really is pathetic.

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