Forest For The Trees

My husband is setting up a new business at the moment. And closing down an old one. He is refurbishing a site, dealing with investors and filling in mountains of paperwork. I have been helping him. In a situation like this you genuinely feel there aren’t enough hours in the day and that you can’t see the forest for the trees. It is also interesting how many people create unnecessary obstacles to work being completed because they are pushing their own agenda.

It is good to have business partners but it is also bad to have business partners. The old adage: Too Many Cooks Spoil The Broth keeps ringing in my head and I hope it isn’t some kind of prophecy. Some men are actually much bitchier than women. I found that out this week. It has opened my eyes very, very wide. And had made me reduce my level of involvement in the new venture.

I can’t handle drama anymore. I’m weary of it. Maybe I’m getting too old for it or maybe I have come to realise that carrying on like a pork chop doesn’t get the job done any faster or any more efficiently. So I’m staying out of it and concentrating on my own projects.

There’s nothing like having the time to hear leaves crunching underfoot. To see that pale yellow light that only comes in late afternoon sliding along and between branches. I run like a child playing a game of hide and seek straight into the midst of it, smelling the earthy underbrush, touching stones still warm from the day; to the place where I can sit and feel and breathe. Just me, here and now. My special, quiet little spot. Such a gift. The place where I am able to see the forest and the trees.

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33 thoughts on “Forest For The Trees

  1. Hi,
    I really think you are spot on, no amount of arguing is going to get anything done, I think as we get older we see things a bit differently maybe
    I wish you and your Husband all the best in this new adventure, and I’m sure it will all work out OK. 🙂

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    1. It’s true, Mags. Arguing doesn’t get you anywhere, it just holds things up. I am sure it will work out OK. Well, I hope it does…….

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  2. I have always had a connection to trees, they are my place of refuge too, and I assure they have spirit as do all living things! Starting out the new business sounds STRESSFUL, and I’m glad you’ve decided to maintain a little space. That way you can support your husband as he works thru without feeling too sucked in to the fray yourself. What kind of business will it be? I am excited for the possibility of something good happening in your lives, you are long overdue! Like you, I am weary of drama, I’ve had more than enough to last a lifetime and I don’t want to take on anyone else’s either. Life is simpler with less of it! Keep us posted on how it all works out! Did you take this photograph? It’s lovely!

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    1. The business is a record bar, Josie. It’s taking an existing record store and putting a small bar in it. It can accommodate about 150 people in the bar. There will also be an area for live music. It’s exciting because nothing like it exists in Sydney but it is a HUGE amount of work to get it open. You would not believe the paperwork just for the Health and Safety regulations (300 pages.) It is exhausting but it is due to open in 2-3 weeks. I hope it leads to better things for us.

      I did take the photo. I take pretty much all of the photos on here now. I am so glad you like it 😀

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  3. Oh yes. I have had much experience with men that are actually much bitchier than women. And more gossipy than teenage girls!

    UGH

    I think you’ve made the right decision by stepping back and focusing on your OWN projects. And enjoying the wonderful beauty in nature!

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    1. I know, Meleah. What’s that about? I can’t believe how divalicious some of these men have been. Is it something in the water??? 😆

      I’ve got to do my own thing now, for sure. It’s much less stressful!

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  4. Everyone needs such a haven. Mine is the boat but I do wish you both well in the new venture because although you show wisdom in respecting your own limits, a partner’s success or failure always effects us. XX

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    1. You are so right, Stafford. How and what our partner does affects us, for sure. It’s not possible to completely stay out of it. A boat would certainly be a haven. I can imagine the sunlight on the water right now….

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  5. Oh…I do appreciate this so much…on occasion I have lunch with old colleagues and hear all the new-old stories…then return to my office camera and smile in hand. 🙂

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    1. Oh yes, slpmartin. Working relationships are hard. They’re just like any other relationship, I guess. I’ve always been very easy going at work so I don’t get people who carry on at the drop of a hat. Some people like the attention, I suppose. I am so glad you can return to your office. There is nothing like doing your own thing!

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  6. Yes, I know what you mean – the older I get the less I want to get involved in dramas (the drama queen is in retirement – haha – temporary or otherwise – we’ll see how I go). I am sure the new business will be fantastic – sounds like a great idea – and will do well. You are wise to stick to the sidelines unless really necessary but there would be fun bits to it, I can imagine 😉

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    1. The drama queen in retirement. LOL. I know exactly what you mean, Gabe. I’m trying to do the same with my inner drama queen. But it’s hard – she’s a stubborn little sucker and likes parading around with her ermine cloak on. I just find all the drama makes me so tired now, so I try and avoid it. There have been fun bits too – like checking out the industrial bar dishwasher. The cycle is finished in 15 seconds. I couldn’t believe it. And everything is sparkling clean. It’s like something from a Sci Fi novel!

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  7. Oh yea men are every bit the drama queens as any woman lol I work with all men and I know what you mean! Do I ever!
    You gotta pick your battles carefully. In all aspects of life. Some things just aren’t worth your precious energy!
    I think it does have to do with our ages. I know I never used to back down from a fight and now I’m all like meh whatever lol

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    1. I remember some of the drama at work you spoke about on your blog, Cathy. Just crazy. I completely agree we have to pick our battles. It is just not worth it making a fuss about every little thing. I’m the same as you. I would never walk away from a fight in the past but now I’m all about letting it go and imagining I’m a lotus flower floating down a river. It is pretty funny considering how I used to be. LOL.

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  8. I wish him & you all the best. You have lots of people rooting for his business to do well. I know first hand what a sneaky bad partner can do to a good thriving business. Fingers crossed for ur hubby.

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  9. greetings again from Scotland, Selma! Your last paragraph in this post really chimed with me: having been so driven that I rarely had time to contemplate either the trees or the forest, I collapsed under the weight of a long family crisis and spent 2001-8 recovering. By then, I had caught up on thirty years’ rest, reading and contemplative time and had deeply learned the value of ‘doing slow’, or doing nothing, or sitting cross eyed staring out of the window clutching a cup of tea.

    I am now preparing to return to work, but never again will I let it cut across the creative spaces we all need to preserve in our lives. And Nature helps us to do just that….

    If any of your readers want encouragement to do a bit of slow, click here!
    http://anne-whitaker.com/2008/09/08/learning-to-do-slow/

    And all the best for the new business!

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    1. Your comment is really inspiring, Anne. I’m sorry you had to go through a collapse to get your creative space back, but I’m glad it returned. You would think that we would know how to ‘do slow’ but I think many of us don’t. I will certainly have a read via your link because I need as much encouragement as I can get. Thank you!

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  10. Yes, Selma, I understand about helping your partner with a big project! We did Larry’s photography show last night at the studio. It was fun, and just us two, but an amazing amount of work! When it’s something so important you just do it but not when someone is bringing drama that you don’t need ~ I am sooooo over that ~ trees are much friendier.
    I sure wish you both happy success with the new venture, sounds awesome!

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    1. I agree, Susan. I’m really happy to get in there and do the work but I shy away from unnecessary drama. The truth is that some adults are not really that adult when it comes down to it. When I see them coming I run to the trees!

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  11. Trees have no agenda. There is nothing worse a man with a hidden agenda. Good for you for removing yourself from the stress of dealing with that and heading out to play with the trees. You’ll be much better able to support your husband that way.

    Good luck to both of you. It sounds like a really cool concept.

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    1. I think it will be a good business, Patti. It’s just taken over a year to get ready so it is weighing all of us down. Thank goodness for the trees 😀 😀

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  12. Sometimes you think you are on the same page, only to find that you aren’t. Go with your gut, Selma. That’s what I do now. I too can’t be bothered with quibbling and suchlike as I get older. Such a waste of time and energy. ♥

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    1. I am the same as you, Adee. I just can’t be bothered with carrying on. It is a HUGE waste of time and energy. I go with my gut now too. It is usually right!

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    1. May I put a disclaimer in there, Shoutabyss and say – ‘SOME men…’ It has surprised mre to learn that. I thought that men were generally straighter shooters than women. Who would’ve thought it ? 🙄

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